Eenie, meenie, miney, mo

Javs and I have stalled (just momentarily) in our wedding planning which is why there have been no posts regarding the announcement of our venue and date. Apparently, it is these two minor details on which the rest of your planning has to hinge - who knew?

For a variety of reasons, we are still in the debating portion of nailing down that date and locale, but I'm learning something through the process!!

**Advice Alert** - Pick the right guy to plan your wedding with.


There have already been more tears and long sighs and 'looks' from me during this planning period than I was hoping for in the entire year. (I was setting my ambitions high.) And the truth is, its stressful. I know everyone says that, but then you get here and my goodness - all those brides were right. (I think I thought if I told myself enough that I wasn't gonna stress about it, that I just wouldn't. You know, a little mind over matter.) But not the case.

Now that being said, I'm lucky enough to have found another being of the homo sapien variety that knows me so well and knows how to handle those rolled or wet eyes when they arrive. As stressed as I've felt, I'm also still having a ton of fun....because I'm doing it with him. And he's fun. And he makes it fun for me.

One of my wedding blogs said this is one of the first major projects you'll work on together which is why it can be particularly stressful. (Javs and I completed a corn hole set with minimal emotional scarring, but I guess that's not quite equivalent to the current project we've undertaken. I think corn hole cost us a whopping $100 -totally worth it by the way.) But in some ways, maybe the planning is a good test. It's going to be stressful - so you'll learn a little bit about how that affects you both and how you handle it together.

Javier has been amazing - reminding me that its 'just one day,' understanding when I do find things that are important to me, giving me space and time to grieve (or vent) over options that just aren't going to work out and being there with new ideas or solutions. I said earlier that I was so happy at how excited he was about starting to plan the day. I know some girls wouldn't mind either way if their boy was into it or not, but its been super perfect for me! And I guess thats my message - if you have the right match for you - it'll work out.

And if you can find someone you can plan with - the marriage part just might be worth it.